Reshaping how we view conflict

Most people carry the belief that conflict means something has gone horribly wrong.

The truth is, conflict is rarely the problem (although it can be uncomfortable). It is usually the result of bigger things at play, like unmet needs, relationships gone wrong, misaligned expectations or unspoken fears.

Because of our unique personal histories, we each see conflict in different ways. Many people find it scary, going to great lengths o avoid it. Others confront it head-on, sometimes with big, unchecked feelings.

While these reactions are common, they can also be distracting, making it hard to see conflict for what it is: a chance to learn more information, and to arrive at a better place.

What if we approach conflict differently? As a mediator, I can help you see conflict as an opportunity to:

• Find the best path forward, aligned with our values

• Strengthen or redefine relationships

• Identify our own and others’ inherent needs

I can help you zoom out and see the bigger things at play. When we focus on better understanding and move away from the “win-lose” dichotomy associated with conflict, things begin to shift. Tension starts to melt away, and we are in a better position to find a way forward.

Feeling stuck in a conflict in your personal or work life? Contact me to see how mediation can help!